Advice to (a younger) me
If, by some quirk of circumstance, I was given the chance to go back in time and give myself some advice I think maybe I’d start by saying “it’s OK to make mistakes”. I was raised to believe that mistakes were failures.. When in fact I now know that they are simply a chance to learn something .. I spent my teens and 20′s worrying every time I screwed something up (which was reasonably often cos duh it’s what we do best at that age!) and that was not time or energy well spent.
1. Regret less. That would be something I’d say to my younger self.
2. Go with your gut. Tune it finely, then listen to it!
3. Love. Love wisely, love deeply. And love often.
4. Friends come and friends go. Enjoy them while they’re friends, let them go when they are not. There was a number of times I fretted over a friendship that faded for reasons I couldn’t identify.. I know now it sometimes just happens.
5. Dark chocolate and red wine are health food. Enjoy!
6. Surround yourself with beauty.
7. Swim naked whenever presented with the chance. It’s a wonderful feeling. Not after the company xmas party though.. Decorum suggests at least keeping your sox on.
8. Don’t live your life trying to impress others. Turns out they either don’t care or they like you just the way you are.
9. Plan for the worst – but don’t welcome or invite it into your life.
10. Make different mistakes. Refer earlier “they’re lessons” statement
11. Save money – but don’t be so worried about saving anything else. Sleep in the best linen you can afford. Eat jam sandwiches off that exquisite dinner set your Mother kept in the cupboard ’til she died. That last drop of beautiful perfume is best applied to the nape of your neck before you go out on a date than it is going sour in the bottle at the back of the cupboard.
The saddest task I did after my Mum died was to dispose of all the things she felt she had to save.
There’s probably more, like the fact I think laying back cloud watching is something everyone should make time to do. Or the obvious ones like “be kind”. But I think those 11 are my top tips to a younger me.
And now, it’s time to go and sit in the sun and drink some ice cold champagne, eat some gorgeously ripe strawberries and send Christmassy texts to all my friends.
Merry Christmas to me .. And to you
Posted on December 25, 2011, in Happy-ness, Humour, Life and tagged Blogs, Christmas, Dating, Divorce, Family, Food, Holidays, Humor, Joy, Kids, Life, Love, On-line Dating, Peace, personal, Random, Relationships. Friendship. Dating. Hope. Optimism. Relationships. Bookmark the permalink. 15 Comments.