Red Flags & Dating
I think I mentioned awhile ago that I’d manned up (so to speak!) and joined a couple of dating web-sites. Well somewhat unusually one of them allows users to critique your profile.. Under the guise of “experienced members giving feedback to help your profile do better”..
My arse that’s what it’s for .. It’s just a different place to prospect.. !
But let me back up..
So I placed my profile in this “review me” forum when I 1st signed up because.. well, the website suggested it. And although it sounds a bit naff, I’m all about learning and let’s face it, I (clearly!) have no idea what appeals to men, so I figured why not seek some feedback..
First guy posts within minutes of me shutting the site down. It was very exciting, I got an email saying “X has given feedback on your profile”. I ran back to my laptop and logged in quickly to find that he has posted this:
“You look cute but there’s a few red flags in your profile. Good luck.”
He neglected to mention what they were, that would be far too friggen helpful of course!
So since I’m on the site, I scan my profile. Red Flags, wtf?
Maybe it’s the bit where I say “I am kinda torn between wanting to try and have a successful (happy) relationship and thinking that maybe it just can’t be done.” IN my defence I realise that could sound overly cynical on a dating profile but I do qualify that by admitting I believe all this means is that I will be cautious.
So not all bad, right? Meh don’t tell me – I’m over feedback!!
As it turns out I can’t take the profile off this forum .. so it’s still there.. still eliciting feedback. Like it / helpful or not!
I logged back in earlier today to find that a couple of other men have commented – Only to say they think it looks great and they’ve then raced off to send me an email. As have a heap of other guys. It’s kinda cool but somehow kinda weird too .. don’t ask me to explain why it just is..
In the interests of research I decided to check out the other profiles seeking feedback i.e.: those posted in the same forum.
Curiously, Russian seems to be the most commonly occurring language, amid the broken english and ever-so-slightly-slutty / photoshopped photographs. Yes, at this juncture I realise what I’ve done..
There’s a reason people like me shouldn’t be on dating websites. We’re not smart enough to know how they work for a START Oh well.. it wasn’t a total loss I did get to chat to a very sexy Scotsman today AND scored a blog post idea.
Hmm so do you reckon this is where I am going wrong?
I talk to men but get excited when I score blog entries?
Posted on January 1, 2012, in Humour, Life, Love, Rants, Relationships, Stress and tagged Blogging, Blogs, Dating, Holidays, Hope, Humor, Life, Lifestyle, Love, New Years Eve., Optimism, personal, Random, Rants, Relationships. Friendship, Technology, Writing. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.