Commitment, issues & exciting news
I recently started reading the book “He’s scared / She’s scared” .. but I stopped after realising that it perhaps would be more appropriate for me to read “She’s scarred / He’s scared” .. so yeah turns out I have commitment issues with finishing books – Good to know. ;)
Mr New continues to be quite lovely – in spite of my many foibles. He’s back from Europe and for all his supposed preferences (freedom, lack of drama and other non-emotive stuff), he seemed rather pleased to know that I had missed him.
Yes, I told him. Sue me.. I can’t not be who I am, say how I feel. A) I couldn’t maintain it if I tried and B) Well heck, he’d find out eventually anyway.. That said, I am still trying to be mindful / aware of how I act, based on my past relationships (and failures!) so as not to scare him … yet – lol!
So anyway, that’s not really the point of this post. The point is I had an epiphany last night that I wanted to share with you all!
I think I’ve worked out how to ensure that relationships succeed and it’s SO simple I can’t believe no one has cracked it before!?
Each party just needs to put in a very large non-refundable cash deposit! Like I said, elegantly simple..
After all, it’s the investment that everyone understands .. for all we need and want different things from relationships, have differing love languages plus issues – the fact that we’ve invested a large sum of non-refundable (that’s important!) cold hard cash into the deal is pretty much guaranteed to keep most people wanting to make it work..
I know. I’m so clever ..
Alright, I’m kidding .. mostly
You may be interested in the reason I meandered down this line of thought .. Cos it is kinda cool, I think.
You see on his return from Europe, Mr New suggested that he and I go on a holiday later in the year! Now on more than one occasion, when talking, he makes statements that indicate he sees himself around for awhile. But the idea of an overseas holiday is a biggie to me!
Not the least because the holiday we then opted for needs a large deposit paid in the next few weeks..
And it’s then that it dawned on me (brick / head = dumb-arse, I know) and I am somewhat ashamed to admit it – but I realised once he paid that deposit on the holiday, I would relax and just start 100% enjoying this relationship instead of fretting about things (that really don’t need to be fretted about!)
So, interesting developments .. Well, for me anyway And in the midst of all this, I now have a holiday to daydream about and plan! Yeah!
Posted on March 13, 2012, in Change, Hope, Humour, Life, Love, Optimism, Rants, Relationships, Stress and tagged Blogging, Books, Dating, Hope, Humor, Inspiration, Life, Lifestyle, Love, Love Language, Marriage, Musings, Online dating, personal, Random, Rants, Reading, Relationships. Friendship, Self Help, Trust. Bookmark the permalink. 24 Comments.