Common themes in my relationships

It occurred to me yesterday that if I am to have any luck (luck is probably the correct adjective too!) finding a man who will be able to put up with me and with whom I won’t become frustrated, bored or “over”, then I need to do a little bit of soul searching and sort some stuff out.

So I started by thinking about the 4 long term relationships I’ve had. I didn’t bother with the 1-night stand / short term kinda guys. They served a purpose but are more of a fun thing than a long term thing (or are they .. hmm might have to delve into that next post!)

I then started to think about any common denominators that existed in my relationships .. Other than ME, that is..!

I don’t have an age “issue”. Last guy was 11yrs my junior.. Guy before him was the same age as me. Guy before him 7yrs older than me etc I do find myself preferring younger men to perv at in the streets / clubs, but then again: I have been smitten by men charging up to age 50 as well. So yeah: Age doesn’t matter.

3 of the 4 were incredible in the sack. The last one so bad it was surreal. Not really a pattern there. After all: I ended it with guys who were good or bad in bed, for all I prefer them to be good!

2 were struggling financially or at best: getting by OK. 1was loaded. 1 was going to become wealthy, he just needed a little more time to get there. Money, for all I like it: not a driver. As I said once before: I can make my own and lots of it, thankfully.

Now I think on it, one common theme – they all had “issues” (of differing kinds) with their parents .. But who the hell doesn’t? Parents are a pain in the ass, let’s be honest *grin* I always said I’d be the worst kinda mother as I’d want to be waaaay too involved. Imagine the headcase son or daughter *I* would procure!

Not sure the parent thing is significant, do you think it could be?

1 was a smoker, 1 was not, 1 was a drinker, 1 was not. 1 was a geek, 1 was a party boy, 1 liked cats, 1 hated them. 1 was dark haired, another blond .. no common themes emerging except “they’re all different”, right?

Hmm OK so this isn’t really helpful at all. Next plan, anyone??


About lifeinthefarcelane

Giving life the shake down it so richly deserves.

Posted on September 9, 2011, in Change, Grief, Happy-ness, Hope, Humour, Life, Love, Relationships and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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