I don’t hate you, let’s stay together
When that flush of fabulous starts to wane and you’re left with a guy who now never brings you flowers.. never notices when you’ve had your hair done.. a meal out is at the local burger joint and (worst of all?) you no longer go weak at the knees when he smiles at you – because he doesn’t, he’s too busy watching telly.. What do you do?
What SHOULD you do?
I have no idea .. so don’t expect any helpful advice here k, I’m one who gets to this point in a relationship all too often and then I find myself ending it, wondering “hmm what went wrong?” As I stumble off into the world of being single once more ..
But maybe nothing went wrong?
Maybe that’s how it is for everyone?
Maybe life comes along, familiarity takes over and it’s impossible to have those halcyon days of “before”. But instead of finding it impossible to contend with, like I do – sensible people “accept” it and that becomes their way of being, that defines their relationship. They accept it as it is..
Now for me, acceptance is a-whole-nother topic! But let’s just say that I’m not very good at acceptance. To me it’s damn near the same as “desperation”, but couched in a way to make the accepting person feel less .. crummy.
Should we just put up with relationships going from amazing to acceptable? Is the pinnacle of a successful long term relationship simply:
“I don’t hate him / her”?
Call me a dreamer, but I’d like more ..
Posted on September 14, 2011, in Change, Grief, Happy-ness, Hope, Humour, Life, Love, Optimism, Relationships and tagged Blogs, Hope, Humor, Life, Love, Marriage, Random, Relationships. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.