Dumping a control freak
Why is it so hard for some of us to allow a “relationship” to end? Or maybe my question is more: “What makes us cling on to the damn thing even when its obvious to everyone else that it’s in the death throes”?
See now I’m oh-so-wise when it comes to dispensing relationship advice to friends. Of course, to cover myself I always add the proviso: “Dunno why you ask me, hell I can’t hold down a relationship either ..” but in reality my advice is generally sensible, albeit impossible for me to follow it.
Yeah I know. Logic PLUS.. Shaddup..
Anyhoo .. I’m sitting here thinking back to times when I kinda know we’re either on the skids or completely over .. and yet I hang on for grim death.. I turn into “that” chick .. whining, being clingy, being all the things I despise in others..
In my case I suspect it’s a control thing, hence the title of this entry (which started out as “know when to fold ’em”) cos I can end a relationship without hesitation if it’s MY idea. But if he says it’s over – by god do I struggle to deal with it.
Is everyone out there the same?
And if you aren’t, how the hell do you handle the rejection without becoming a babbling brainless bore who drives his / her friends to distraction (and generally acts like a complete moron) for x period of time..?