How to ask a man on a date

Ladies, I have received some sage counsel from a variety of people on this topic recently and feel it’s time I shared the secret with you. I’m surprised at how simple it is too ..

You just ask!

Now there is a trick to getting this right.. Ok there are a couple of tricks.

1. You must be prepared (mentally at least) for rejection or disinterest. If this happens, smile (or send a smiley) and go “OK cool..” (asswipe is whispered in your head, never uttered out loud k) And apparently sometimes this “cool” reaction can bring about a date request from them. All you did was signal a lack of rejection risk to them but they want to take control..

2. You need JUST the right amount of casual.

Which is where the (and this is so cunning I love her for suggesting this!) multiple choice of activity comes into it. BUT you need to be S M A R  T about it .. set a deadline / put a time constraint on it.

So, to recap ..

When you want to ask a man out:

“Hey, would you like to go ten pin bowling / the movies / have a wine one day this week?” – Good.

“So, what do you reckon we go do something some time?” – Not so good. 

At the end of the day, the guy will either go “yay I don’t have to ask her – this rocks” and go on said date with you. Or he’ll go “wtf? And not go .. ”

Either isn’t too bad cos why waste time wondering and hoping about the guy who’s gonna say no?


About lifeinthefarcelane

Giving life the shake down it so richly deserves.

Posted on October 29, 2011, in Humour, Life, Love, Relationships, Stress and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. A good wing women never hurts either.

  2. Yeah, it’s not so easy, is it, ladies?

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