Want a boyfriend? Be a bitch..
So I realised today, all I have to do is learn to be a ball busting bitch who withholds sex, doesn’t appear to give a shit about anything the guy says or needs and instead demands of him every single thing he can possibly give ..and more .. All the while treating him like crap, remember!
This approach sure as heck seems to work for a lot of women out there!
A friend and I were discussing earlier today how weird it is that there are so many sweet (and not sweet but pig-ugly, either!) guys with total monsters for girlfriends or wives. What is that about?
This thought process kinda ties in with a blog I read today by a shrink saying some women give too much, which is all well and good til one day they say “er, hello can I have some in return please?” and everyone (i.e the man in her life or kids or whatever) stares at her as though she’s grown two heads.
Ideally we need to draw a balance, between being a doormat and a ball busting bitch, I know. However, as some of you have observed I’m about as tough as a marshmallow left out in the rain (sigh) .. But maybe being tougher is something I need to work on?
What if I become a ball busting nun who runs away to become a gothic pirate?
This should pull in the lads.. roight??
Posted on December 3, 2011, in Humour, Life, Love, Relationships and tagged Arguing. Relationships., Dating, Divorce, Humor, Life, Love, Relationships. Friendship. Dating. Hope. Optimism. Joy. Peace. Bookmark the permalink. 29 Comments.
lifeinthefarcelane 
I know!! Man I hate this but it is so true…I’ll join your gothic pirate bitch nunnery! Woohoo.
You are right!
you should remain who you are! Dont be the person u think you should be,but be the person you are! Don’t let anyone transform you outside yourself. a guy should meet you halfway. you shouldn’t be puttin more in the relationship than he is.50/50. your 100% is 50%,no more. if he doesn’t listen,then find someone who will. BUT IF YOU LOVE HIM. have a one-on-one talk with him and tell him how you feel and try 2 work it out. REMEMBER!! ,it takes two !!! HOLLA BACK
Couldn’t have said it better myself!
🙂
It depends on whether you want to date a dog or a wolf. A dog can be trained to do what you want whenever you want it but they aren’t ever going to surprise you. A wolf is a wild intense unpredictable animal that comes with the risk of biting you or running off.
The solution of course is to maintain one of each. 😀
I think the comparison between dog and wolf sums it all up!
Very valid comment re the dog vs wolf.. Maybe a moderately tamed wolf??
I have done predictable (steady / stable – call it what you will) and liked it for a time. I have done crazy / surprising / weird and hated it most of the time. So maybe a dullard like me needs to stop wanting too much and just find some nice man who doesn’t make me wanna cry whenever I see him, and be done with it 😉
Careful with the ball-busting, for when you need them later, they won’t be there.
LOL! I know EXACTLY this same thought. I, too, am one that gives too much, and I’m now re-evaluating my approach for the next relationship. Finding that balance is definitely easier said than done.
the thing is, I don’t want to (nor can I probably even manage it) change who I am because it IS who I am .. the guy I entrap er, I mean any man who takes me on has to know this up front or he’ll get one helluva shock when the real me turns up on his doorstep one day huh!
The reason why the ‘sweet’ guys have horrible girlfriends or wives is because they are too big of a wuss to break up with her… cause she’d beat his wimpy little ass.
you are right, lmao @ beat his wimpy ass!!
It works the other way too. There a lot of nice women with jerks for boyfriends/husbands. It has to do with the idea of “opposites attract” and that kind of thing. An aggresive, bossy person needs a relationship with someone who is submissive, who doesn’t mind the other person being in charge.
yeah they may need it but it doesn’t last, does it? I thinkthe opposites attract concept total bollocks. I even have a draft on that exact heading with that subject line *grins*
All about balance, until the fat guy sits on the other end of the see saw!
I’m totally stealing your metaphor!
that reminds me of “it’s all fun and games til someone gets hurt” to which I once heard someone say “then it’s just fun” 😉
It’s often said about various people, “He/She is a sucker for bad treatment.”
I’m not one of those people. I’m actually quite demanding. But I don’t ask for things that I wouldn’t do (if I’m able) for the person.
I’m ok with asking my mate to do something for me, that he is clearly going to be more skilled or better at doing. I once heard someone say “it works best if you’re both constantly trying to find things to do for the other half” but I am unsure this is a) likely and b) sustainable 😉
You know a shrink with a blog? share.
oh it was one I stumbled across by accident, and didn’t click follow damn sorry .. I’ll go see if I can find it .. it really was good.. Hope you are doing OK 🙂
“REPENT YE SCURVY DOGS” Love it!!! 🙂
“a ball busting bitch who withholds sex…” Not so much… but that’s none of my affair. But hey, I just read your latest blog, and you sound like you’d be great fun to hang out with!
Aww thank you, I will buy the first round of drinks when we have this hell blog party I plan on throwing once I win the lottery and can fund all your tickets to visit k 😉
This is sooooo true.
Men love it when women give them a hard time. All those goody-two-shoes wifey types just ain’t enough of a challenge for men!
But of course they’d never admit it.
Men do like to chase / the challenge, it seems.. I totally agree there!
I wonder if you’re right, men like to have something to be miserable about.
God knows plenty of women know how to do just that! LOL
SOME MEN LIKE TO CHASE,BUT….AS HE’S CHASING YOU ,YOU MUST STILL GIVE HIM THE IMPRESSIN THAT HE HAS A CHANCE WITH YOU. CAUSE SOME MEN WILL SAY “,MAN FUCK ALL THIS SHE AINT INTERESTED SO I’M JUS GONNA FIND SOMEONE ELSE” so you ghotta be careful when u want him to chase,especially when you think he’s attractive and you have interest !!!!-Holla Back
I dont know what it is with men, I love them to bits,but it seems women now have to be the domineering/possesive ones in the relationship. Ive always been the type to give a man his “space” when it comes to being with friends, going out to bars, etc. My motto has always been that if they are going to cheat they will do it regardless of what you do. But it baffles me that some men will put up with the worst treatment, in the name of what? Love? I just dont buy it. Relationships are hard and theyve changed, Im recently divorced and in a new relationship, but its been like walking on eggshells half the time.
I MUST SAY,YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. THE WAY YOU TREATED HIM,I EXACTLY WHAT I WOULD WANT.”YOU WILL MAKE A PERFECT GIRL FOR ME CAUSE I AGREE WIT WHAT EVERYTHING YOU SAID. BELIEVE IT OR NOT,SOME MEN LIKE THE WOMEN TO TAKE CHARGE AND BE POSSESSIVE,SOME DON’T. IT JUST DEPEND ON THE GUY YOU MEET. ALOT OF WHO GETS MARRIED WANT TO LIVE THE STATUS ,BUT DON’T WANNA LIVE THE LIFE.MOST MARRIAGES TODAY AREN’T REALLY MARRIAGES,THEY ARE JUST MIRAGES OR FANTASIES WHAT THEY WANT IT TO BE. ONE INCEDENT,THEY READY TO DIVORCE,NOT SAYIN THATS WHAT YOURS IS,JUS SAYIN. SOME MARRIIAGES JUST AREN’T MEANT TO BE. IT TAKES ALOT TO GET MARRIED AND FOR IT TO BE A SUCCESSFUL ONE…..FOR THE RECORD ,YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!