Knowledge isn’t just power
Someone sent me a link the other day to an on-line assessment (I’m off to buy the book later today) called: “Your love language”. Click on the picture below to go to the free test, it didn’t take long to do and I must say I found it remarkably accurate – esp. when I think about how I so often find myself feeling during a relationship.
It was especially apt, since the new man in my life and I found ourselves talking at some length yesterday about what we liked and disliked in our previous serious relationships.
It was interesting to hear a male’s point of view and perhaps moreso, because he seems to be the male equal of me: in that he has no trouble attracting women but doesn’t seem to be able to go the distance, for whatever reasons.
And he’s remarkably open about his feelings, so I am finding.
Oh and before you think we’re both the type who never make it past 3 dates but call it a relationship – we’re both out of 7-8yr relationships in the last year or so.
Some of you may recall awhile back I made a list of what I’d like in a man .. this was done sort of in jest but sort of not, too. Well this new man gets a “tick” against *everything on that list but one of the things that totally does it for me is his sense of humour. I laugh almost the entire time we’re together..
This is an awesome addition when you remember that he’s handsome, kind and charming. As well as being highly intelligent, he is driven in his career and in possession of a very confident demeanour. To top it off? He races cars and bikes, which we all know I find dead-sexy.
This blend of attributes all packaged into one man is not something I’ve experienced before..
And yes, I like it 😉
BUT I realised this week how important it is for me to be with a man who can make me laugh. So that was cool.. cos for all I posted about what I wanted in a man, I laughed when I observed that “make me laugh” wasn’t on said list!
In my dating history I have 2 long term relationships, amid the other dates and ‘experiences’.
1 with the super-serious (but hot) intellectual and 1 with the charming & popular but a little bit mean and indifferent (to me) guy.
From these relationships I learned a whole lot, both about me and about men. And about relationships .. of course! But I’m also aware that there is so much I don’t really know about men and how they tick.
I also learn about my relationship “approach”, which is something I’ve pondered before in this blog and no doubt will continue to do so..
Not really sure this entry flows a helluva well or makes much sense even.. but I’ll finish it by saying this:
As I walked home from the gym yesterday, I realised I was smiling to myself and that I felt a sense of security and a happiness with whatever was going on with Mr new.
I put it down to the fact that he communicates openly with me on all sorts of topics .. but also that he makes me feel confident that HE is into me as much as I am him, at this point in the situation.
And that knowledge made me feel .. at peace..
*I have to admit, I can’t say yes to quite everything since we’re in the early days yet – but I’m gonna go out on a limb and suggest that for all I’ve yet to assess it, I’m optimistic *grins*
Posted on February 14, 2012, in Hope, Humour, Life, Love, Relationships and tagged Blogs, Dating, Hope, Humor, Inspiration, Life, Lifestyle, Love, Marriage, Musings, Online dating, personal, Quotes, Random, Rants, Relationships. Friendship, Valentine's Day. Bookmark the permalink. 21 Comments.