When girlfriends go bad
So I’ve lamented before how I can “land“but not “keep” a man. Well I was thinking it really is something I need to work on. After all, identifying issues is all well an’ good. Dealing to them is kinda more useful tho, huh!
And I think I worked it out. Or some of it anyway ..
You see, I think I am – at the risk of sounding like a complete wanker – a reasonable catch.
Before you all log out in disgust: I just mean that I’m friendly! Ok that still isn’t working is it .. fine – how about the fact that in a crowd setting I’m there in the thick of it? No? Ok, I’m intelligent, I have a good sense of humour, am generous and generally quite a fun person to be around.
All of which explains why I can attract a man.. The issue we have is keeping said man! And the reason I can’t keep him?
COS I CHANGE WHEN I’VE LANDED HIM! There, I $#@! admitted it.
And that was actually quite hard to admit cos it seems so stupid. But I do .. I go from being a fun, confident and enjoyable woman – the one who attracted him in the first place .. To an insecure, anxious douche bag!
Fundamental problem even for all I’ve worked out this lil gem?
I’ve NO friggen idea how to stop doing it lol.. but I’m hoping that the fact I have at least identified and accepted it is a good step ..
This whole introspection bizzo is a pain in the arse, I think I will go for a run and give my brain a rest!
Posted on March 26, 2012, in Humour, Love, Rants, Relationships, Stress and tagged Blogging, Books, Dating, Hope, Humor, Inspiration, Life, Lifestyle, Love, Love Language, Marriage, Musings, Online dating, personal, Random, Rants, Reading, Relationships. Friendship, Self Help, Trust. Bookmark the permalink. 36 Comments.