Aw man, I just got pump an’ dumped!

Well, I got dumped anyway .. At least I am consistent .. Consistently shit *sigh* So yeah as previously posted, date night was a success, albeit short lived! All indications were that he was happy with the date. I mean heck, he even left 2 personal items behind which, as we all know: is the perfect excuse for a return meeting.

Next day I heard from him once. We’d gone from texting every few minutes to once. Mm. But hey people get busy so I didn’t fret. Next day, no texts til I finally sent one saying “uh did I do something to offend you ..?” The reply was prompt: “Nope, just got a headache and busy with work.”

Fair enough.. People get busy and get headaches.

But after getting that I didn’t send any more texts because, well – what’s the point if they’re being ignored, right? If I am honest, I was a bit pissed off and surprised so not texting seemed sensible in case I said something I may later regret! Be it a needy text or a pissy one, neither appealed to me!

Next day I get a “Good morning” text. I replied but received no response til later that evening when I had sent a 2nd text.

By this stage I was more than a little pissy so I ignored it and went to bed early. Least I’m all caught up on sleep, not for me the “can’t sleep” deal. When I am upset, angry or stressed I sleep like a baby, thank goodness – the amount of crappy dates I get I’d look like total hell if it was the other way around! 😉

It all came to a head last night when I sent a text asking when he was coming by to get his stuff. If I am honest I don’t know quite how it went the way it did but basically he said he got the feeling I wasn’t interested (Uh, YOU stopped texting me, buddy!?) I argued this point but that was his out, I think. And far be it for me to force someone to want to be with me!

So, here we are 6 days later and his “left behind” items are in my mailbox waiting for him to pick up and I don’t expect to hear from him again.

Like I said, least I am consistent huh ..


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Posted on May 16, 2012, in Humour, Life, Relationships and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 27 Comments.

  1. I’m sorry. He was probably a murderer though, and just realized that he would be able to get away with it. Seriously though, I am really sorry. I was hoping you’d find a nice guy and at least have a little fun. Are you still going to do the Internet dating stuff though? My sister met her husband through that, and from what I’ve heard, it really can work out sometimes. Maybe you just have to weed through the pile of losers to find a good match.

    • heheh @ Murderer! I have the doors locked, so am OK! *grins*

      I will leave my profile up.. I have to admit the online thing hasn’t been a roaring success but yeah neither has my meeting men in bars, libraries or the office, so we can’t really blame the online thing 😉

      On a side note, I’ve got house guests arriving today for a week, so better go get busy. Will be nice to have the company and distraction, actually 🙂

      • That makes sense. Alright, good luck with your cleaning, and I say if I ever get divorced and you still haven’t found a good guy, lets just hook up. I won’t try to kill you or anything… 😉

  2. Confusing is right…double messages abound, you may be better to sit back and see if he realizes what a douche he is for letting you slip out of his fingers.

    • It was confusing, best adjective totally lol

      Generally I can tell when things are going awry but nothing NOTHING at all gave me a clue in this case.

      Oh well, without wanting to sound glib, it is better to have it now than waste time and energy only to be here in a few weeks or months time but yeah it still makes me go “huh?”

  3. Ugh, sorry to hear things worked out that way after a promising start… I hope the next guy is less of a flake!

  4. You know, anyone who uses that kind of shitty out isn’t likely to be someone you wanted to keep anyway. *hugs*

  5. Men. What are you going to do. I didn’t ask to be born a man, just to set the record straight. It was just randomly assigned to me. Not that I am complaining, mind you. But then again, I am not a jerk like that guy seems to be. I wonder if he just leaves his stuff wherever he goes, like a snail trail of mucous.

  6. He was intimidated by your awesomeness.

  7. what a douche! Sounds like he flipped the script (and is part woman with the headache excuse)

  8. Megan mind works in very wrong ways and the phase pump and dump … yes, well I, I am really not going to explain 😉 Good luck next time Loser!! 😀 ahaha.

  9. I made you an award. Thanks for making great porn.

  10. What is it with some men?! Seriously, are they afraid of something real? Are they intimidated by awesome, independent women? Do they not know what they want?
    I don’t get how some guys can put out a vibe of, “Hey, I’m into you.” minute? Then completely vanish.
    I wish you the best of luck finding someone!

  11. oh dear.. I’m sorry. Successful dates should turn out good all the way but what the heck! It is not your loss but his completely. A friend of mine has the same problem and what you both have in common is independence. I guess guys are just intimidated with strong willed women. They always have this attitude of making you feel good at a moment to make you feel worst the next, without even realizing that they are making look like fools of themselves just by doing that! Well cheer up girl! Shake it off and pamper yourself! 🙂

  12. I always tell my friend that 1. You never know what is going on in someone’s life. If you did, their behavior might make sense. 2. Relationships shouldn’t be such hard work, even at the beginning. You deserve better.

  13. sometimes the explanation, “guys are just weird,” works for me 😉 On a serious note, don’t doubt that the awesomeness you were previously exuding is in any way lacking now that his feelings have changed. stay positive.

  14. Not good, or maybe it is, i don’t know. Sorry to hear it anyways. Damn.

  15. Benoni Goose

    That sucks balls….he probably got intimidated by your sheer Awesomeness 😉

  16. Pff. What a dick! I hate people that play games like that.

  17. I know this guy and he’s an asshole. Like I told you before, you can do so much better. Weren’t you thinking of becoming a lesbian at one point? Whatever happened to that idea?

  18. Actually you may have lucked out:
    Some people are so passive aggressive that they force the other person to break up with them because they feel inadequate, or don’t want to have any responsibility or consideration of another person. They simply can’t face conflict or the thought that someone might think they are a bad person – So they can be nice and still manipulate things so you have no choice but to be the bad one and tell him to get lost and not waste your time.
    All the mixed signals certainly point in that direction…he can whine that he’s “the one that got dumped – not my fault – pity me pity me – give me some attention”.
    Don’t cry over this one.

  19. Hey girl, I just wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing.

  20. I’ve often wondered myself why guys do this…In fact why anyone does this! It’s a catch 22 really. How are you ever going to meet anyone if you don’t actually put yourself out there? In my own life i’ve noticed that when I’m not trying to find something “hey presto” it appears. Maybe (I stress maybe) you could try not looking…

  21. I’ve been taking my slow sweet time getting caught up with everyone’s life. This is crap, such total teenage stuff. Where are all the men? It seems like there are more boys out there then men! Keep looking!

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